Failing with Abandon

Hey friends,

As I wrote about last week, with the help of my new accountability coach James, I set myself three goals. Here are the results as promised:

✅ Host a dinner party - This went really well. Had 15 people over on Saturday evening and cooked a Quorn bolognese with pasta. I’m aiming to do this whole dinner party thing every 1-2 weeks from now on. Even went out and bought a bunch of cooking gear lol.

➖ Draft chapter 5 of my book - I got to 50% (around 4,000 words), but then realised that I needed to tweak the book outline, so the goal wasn’t valid any more. Steven Pressfield discusses this in Nobody Wants to Read Your S**t: how with every book there are moments of asking yourself, “what the hell is this goddamn thing actually about”. The answer is to go back to basics, make sure you’ve got a logical + coherent argument in each section, and then get back to writing.

❌ Go to the gym Monday, Wednesday, Friday - I skipped my Monday session after a late night. I’ve realised that gym first thing in the morning doesn’t work for me… it’s not an enjoyable first activity, so I just procrastinate in bed. From now on I’ll switch to two days a week, and try to go more with my natural flow. Eg after my writing session on Wednesday I was really in the mood for a workout, so I went to the gym, and it was great. I know that “motivation is a myth” etc, but sometimes we just need to make things fun.

So I didn’t get everything done, but I’m still very happy with progress on all fronts. This reminds me of Nate Soares’ post about not ‘failing with abandon’: even if we stumble a little on one of our goals (like missing the Monday gym sesh), that’s no reason to “fail with abandon” by not going to the gym the other two days. 100% is great, but 80% is also pretty reasonable.

I can still choose to get as close as possible to my target. That can be hard to remember if you’re just focused on getting a big fat ✅ on your to-do list.

Honestly I’m slightly annoyed at how effective this accountability coaching is. Just having a call with a guy who asks me “so what are your goals for the week” shouldn’t work as well as it does. Which speaks to the whole weekly review thing being really really useful. I know I could do all this by myself - it’s just that I don’t.

Have a great week!

Ali xx

PS This week we launched Season Two of my podcast Deep Dive, which I’m super excited about. I kicked off by interviewing psychologist Dr Julie Smith about therapy, relationships, and how to lead a meaningful life.

PPS: Something exciting is coming soon...

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✍️ Quote of the Week

The wide world is all about you: you can fence yourselves in, but you cannot for ever fence it out.

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